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Secret Affairs


Relationships are something that everyone gets excited about. Being wanted, accepted, cherished and loved by another person is one of the basic needs of man and is captured under the hierarchy of needs by Abraham Marslow. It is the deepest desire of every person to feel belonging to and with another person other than their families. Therefore, people go to various lengths to find this special someone with whom their world would be complete. When they do, their joy is boundless!

Naturally, when we meet someone special, we want to tell the whole world that the person is really special, and use the same platform to ward off anyone who might be eyeing our person. We are in a hurry to tell our families, friends, even our enemies that our lives are now complete with love. Sometimes, this does not happen, as the partners might not be in such a hurry to make the relationship public and might prefer to stay undercover for a while.

There are several reasons for which people choose to have secret affairs. We shall be looking at four of them in this article.

Right Decision
The couple might want to have a secret affair because they want to be sure that they have made the right decision in choosing their partner. This is so especially in the case of people who have had bitter relationship experiences in the past. In order not to raise expectations of families and friends and even self, the couple chooses to lie low until they are certain that the new relationship will be better than the previous.

Protection and Security
As a person, someone might hate your mere existence. As a couple, you are sure to attract a lot of hatred and envy from the singles. There might be people who will cause havoc to the new relationship should they hear of it. There are issues of exes spreading falsehood about their exes as soon as they heard that the latter had moved on. A couple might choose to keep their relationship secret till they are sure that all threats can be handled.

Players
There will always be a bad nut in the basket. Everything that can be used to produce good results can also be used negatively. There might be genuine reasons for wanting to keep a relationship secret but these unscrupulous ones do so because of their own nefarious activities. They may be having more than one partner at a time and for fear of being exposed and left alone, they have secret affairs so that one will not know the other and they can continue their wicked fun. Well, they are always caught in the end.

Fun
On a lighter note, it is said that fruit eaten in the dark is sweetest. There is a certain thrill associated with having secret affairs. A couple might find it exciting to hide their relationship from friends and families and be having their rendez-vous. It all forms part of the excitement in the relationship.

Having mentioned the above, let’s bear in mind that the thrill of keeping a secret wanes as time goes by. You may want to share your secret joy with someone else. Try not to keep a relationship secret for too long. It can corrode the trust between the couple. And if everyone already knows of your affair, no worries: keep the fire of your love burning. Cheers.
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  1. Korkor Borteye5 May 2016 at 14:50

    feel free to leave your comments as well, dear reader. thank you.

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